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[Daenerys Targaryen]

how do you deal with still being in love with someone who treats you like complete garbage? someone who once promised you everything and then one day just pretends you don’t exist? someone who lies to you to save themselves from dealing with reality and keeps you hanging on? someone who uses you and talks to you when they need something and then goes back to ignoring you the next day. like its all right there. cut them out of your life. they’re a piece of shit. but you still love them. how?????????

[this is sick]

this is my life tbh. literally, word for word.

idk if you're joking but...yeah lol.

[Daenerys Targaryen]

not joking at all. been like this for months now and im just like so fed up but its so hard when all you want is that person but they're a complete asshole

[this is sick]

i'd say you should distance yourself. it'll keep you from getting hurt. it's easier said than done, and if it's meant to be it's meant to be and that's what i'm doing. if they want to talk, then do it, maybe that'll make you happy, if not, don't chase them because truth of the matter is, they probably don't care. that said, it shouldn't keep you from moving on.

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also, words tend to fix things or at least make things better. you should maybe try talking and putting things out there and letting them know how you feel. it could improve things and lead you on a completely different path, but it could also make things awkward, which is also okay, it lets you know you tried your best and it's time for you to just move on. that's what i'd do. that's what i did actually.

[Daenerys Targaryen]

thank you. you're right i just need to stop the texting. she's just cold and distant now anyway. she told me she was depressed and thats why she needed space and so for like 3 months ive given her space. we'd just randomly text but it was always just me trying to talk to her while she gives short responses and not even ask about my life. (we were in a ldr, but we had met a bunch of times and she'd stay with me months at a time)

and trust me i tell her everything on my mind and all she does is put off and make excuses that she cant get into a long "heavy" conversation now. so im just tired of it. im tired of trying to make it work and trying to help her through her stuff when she wont help herself.

and its not like shes soooo depressed because she still hangs out and goes places with her friends and talks to other people a lot more than she talks to me.

its just hard bc im so in love still. and i can go a few days with not talking to her, but then i just miss her so much so i text her and i get sucked back in this cycle. i know im all over the place and none of it prob makes sense

[Cersei Lannister]

tiff. just looking at this situation without thinking about knowing-ish her or anything, i think it could be best for you to not talk to her for awhile. and i know that would be ridiculously hard for you, but it sounds like you don't end up happy when you do try to communicate with her anyway because she's not even trying to get involved in these conversations.

i've obvi never been at all at all in love with someone, so i'm sure it's a lot easier for me to say than it is for you to do. but i think you should just really try to focus on and do things with your fam, friends, work, etc, and maybe you'll be able to prove to yourself that you don't need her as much as you feel like you do?

idk i feel like bitca and other people are prob better at this than i am

[ozOz]

No more texting !
Will probably be hard, you'll be tempted, but it's the only way.
Complete silent treatment, that'll make her think !

[this is sick]

i agree. no more texting. give yourself a break, at least 2 days, i know it's hard (belieeeeve me) and you'll probably be staring at your phone all day, i know (truuuust me!) but if you can make it for two days, maybe you can give yourself a new goal of 2 more days, and then so on and so on and you'll start to get used to not hearing from her. bottom line is, if she doesn't text you, she doesn't want to talk to you, so why would you want to talk to someone who simply does not want to talk? do the 2 days thing, it should work and it's for the best. IF she texts you in a couple of days, then talk to her about it, don't just play it cool, let her know how you feel and then you will know. good luck.

[dalki]

I agree with everyone else. End it for now and see how things go. Either they're a personal mess or they're with someone else and don't want to admit it. Either way, you shouldn't get sucked into their drama.

[Daenerys Targaryen]

Thank you everyone.

I knew in my head what I had to do, it's just helpful to hear it from other people too. It's going to be so hard and I'm a mess, but I was fine before her and eventually I'll be fine without her.

[this is sick]

stay strong! and keep busy. you can do it.

[ozOz]

stay strong! and keep busy. you can do it.

That's the key !
Do things that you like to keep your head busy and not think about her.
Things will get better, it's just a matter of time

[Johnny]

Try involving yourself in something new and exciting. Change up your routine, go some place you've never been before, meet some new people. Do stuff that makes you scared and excited at the same time. Things like this are hard, but I find that when I force myself into new things I get over it a little bit easier.

Take care!

[McPheever]

Word of advice, either have balls of steel, change your number, or don't let her into your life at ALL. Ecspeically when you are on the verge of moving on.
Not sure if it's true the things I was told, but don't beleive any sort of threat. -secludes self back into the shadows-

[Justin]

Your post seems like it has to do with a significant other, but I've mentioned before rooming with my best friend and what an asshole he turned out to be to me. But we were so tight that it took me months to realize we were never going to go back to being as good of friends as we were because "giving up" is tough.

But to be honest, as the semester dragged on, the last month or so in particular, the more and more of an asshole he was being to me, the easier it got because I just got so sick and fed up with it (plus it helped that I have new roommates this coming semester).

Then the remarkable happened... we went home! I've been home for a month and a half now and I hardly feel bad at all about the situation. I'm still very bitter at how badly my "friends" treated me, but I've gotten to see that there are other people out there who will treat you well and with respect and being home this long so far has gotten me to see that I don't need anyone's friendship to be happy, there are simply others who are there. And not talking will certainly help. It might hurt on the inside, but you'll probably get over it eventually. I feel great and feel like I have so much to look forward to now.

Surround yourself with other people, that's how I've been coping. It works like a charm.

[Cheryl Tweedy]

Become a Marine like Katy Perry.

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how'd it go? how are you doing now?